by Shayna on July 6, 2011
Do you ever feel as if your whole life is falling down?
There is just too much to do, and there is no way you’ll get around to it all?
That things are just too, well – complicated?
Of course you do. Everyone does.
Right now I feel as if my whole life is crashing.
I’ve got too many books to read. Too many things to take care of. Too many piles of back work like laundry, dishes and cooking and emails. Too many . . . and too much. But I know I can manage my overload.
So how do I cope with all this?
The First Thing is to breath.
Breathing is really the most important thing, and so easy to forget. Breathing gives us oxygen, and anyone without enough oxygen is going to panic. It doesn’t need more than that.
So really do take a couple of deep breaths.
The Second thing is Make a List.
You don’t have to actually write anything out, but you do need to get a couple of things clear.
- What does NOT have to be taken care of Right Now! – and what does?
- If something isn’t Right Now! – when is it?
- Between things that need to be taken care of Right Now! – which is MOST Important?
Medical care is always Right Now! If someone is bleeding – that really does need to be taken care of first, before anything else.
Phone Calls that can only happen during business hours can always wait. You may not like that fact, but there is nothing that anyone can do to change it.
And don’t forget to breathe.
by Shayna on June 24, 2011
The three wise monkeys are traditionally “See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil” but for me they have a totally different meaning.
How many times has something happened – and for hours, or even years afterwards, we replay the whole thing over, and over, and over in our minds. We need to stop the negative messages we give ourselves that lower self-esteem. We often need reminders to live in the present. Reminders to learn, once again, to see the wonders that do exit in our lives.
The wise monkey covering her eyes is refusing to look for who is to blame – and that gives the opportunity to relax. We personally do not have to assume full responsibility for running the world. There is a time to pick up responsibility – and a time to put it down too.No one can be all things to all people.
It is important to Relax.
The wise monkey covering her ears knows that freedom from the voices of bad memories means she can focus on those Precious Moments that are so easily pushed aside and almost forgotten. These are the moments in our lives of love and kindness and are the ones that should be brought out and treasured. It is habit that allows them to get pushed aside and replaced by memories of vicious cutting words or thoughtless actions.
Value the Precious Moments
The wise monkey covering her mouth knows that freedom guilt means she can feel, once again, Wonder and Joy. It’s an odd thing, but blaming anyone – or anything means that someone is guilty. Well we all know where that ends – that somehow we are the ones to blame. There was something we should have said or done – that would have made the difference. But we didn’t – and it’s all our fault.
Accept – don’t blame.
By accepting, with humility, life as it comes it is possible to find again a life of Wonder and Joy.
And that is a promise.
